Daniel Menely, LMHC, MA, is a Gottman-trained couples therapist and former NYU writing professor. He writes the Psychology Today blog Relationship Mechanics and works online with smart, verbal, high-functioning couples who get stuck arguing about what really happened, what was meant, who is being fair, and whose version of the relationship will stand. He is available for expert commentary on couples conflict, communication, repair, resentment, men in therapy, trust, and divorce ambivalence.